How to Say ‘I've been thinking about our relationship.’ in Japanese
僕たちの関係について考えてた。
boku tachi no kankei ni tsui te kangae te ta
[boh-koo tah-chee noh kahn-kay nee tsoo-ee teh kahn-gah-eh teh tah]
💬 Usage Tip: [〜について] = “about.” [考えてた] implies ongoing thought. You can soften with [最近] (“lately”) or [ちょっと].
🇯🇵 In Japan: Directly saying [関係] can feel serious; many Japanese people ease in with [これからのこと] (“about the future”) first.
Phrase Breakdown
僕たち
boku tachi
we; us (male-sounding “boku” + plural)
僕 (I) + たち makes a plural/group: “we/us” (my group and I).
僕たちは友達だ。
We are friends.
Words in this phrase
僕
boku
[boh-koo]
I; me (male speaker)
Male “I.” In this sentence, it implies the speaker is being reflective and serious.
僕たちの関係について考えてた。
I was thinking about our relationship.
たち
tachi
[tah-chee]
pluralizing suffix; “we” (with 僕)
「僕たち」 = “we/us.” Used when discussing the relationship as a pair.
僕たちの関係について考えてた。
I was thinking about our relationship.
の
no
[noh]
possessive/connecting particle “of”
「の」 links nouns: 「僕たちの関係」 = “our relationship.”
僕たちの関係について考えてた。
I was thinking about our relationship.
関係
kankei
[kahn-kay]
relationship; connection
A key word for dating talk. 「関係」 can mean romantic relationship, status, or overall connection between people.
僕たちの関係について考えてた。
I was thinking about our relationship.
に
ni
[nee]
particle “in/at/to (regarding)”
Here it marks the target topic: 「関係に」 + 「ついて」 = “about the relationship.”
関係について考えてた。
I was thinking about the relationship.
つい
tsui
[tsoo-ee]
about; concerning (part of について)
「について」 means “about/regarding.” This 「つい」 is the first part; it combines with 「て」.
関係について話そう。
Let’s talk about our relationship.
て
te
[teh]
-te form connector
Part of the contraction 「てた」 (= ていた). Indicates an ongoing action/state in the past.
ずっと考えてた。
I’ve been thinking about it.
考えてた
kangae te ta
was thinking (casual)
Casual past/progressive form of 考えていた → 考えてた, meaning “(I) was thinking.”
ずっと考えてた。
I’d been thinking about it.
Words in this phrase
考え
kangae
[kahn-gah-eh]
think; consider (stem)
Stem of 考える. With 「てた」 becomes casual past progressive: “was thinking / had been thinking.”
僕たちの関係を考えてた。
I was thinking about our relationship.
て
te
[teh]
-te form connector
Part of the contraction 「てた」 (= ていた). Indicates an ongoing action/state in the past.
ずっと考えてた。
I’ve been thinking about it.
た
ta
[tah]
past (casual)
In 「考えてた」, 「た」 is the casual past ending, contracted from 「ていた」.
昨日から考えてた。
I’ve been thinking since yesterday.
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