
Flirting at the bar (Advanced): Buy them a drink after asking for their permission.
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Key Phrases
¿Te puedo invitar algo de tomar?
Can I buy you something to drink?
Si prefieres que no, no pasa nada.
If you'd rather not, that's fine.
Gracias por preguntar primero, no todos lo hacen.
Thanks for asking first, not everyone does.
Skills You'll Learn
How to politely offer someone a drink at a bar
Cómo ofrecer cortésmente una bebida a alguien en un bar
How to respect and respond to a polite refusal
Cómo respetar y responder a un rechazo educadamente
How to say goodbye and wish someone a safe trip
Cómo despedirse y desear buen viaje a alguien
Lesson Roleplay
Imagine you're at a bar in Mexico City. You want to meet someone new and offer to buy her a drink.
Perdón, ¿te molesto tantito? Me llamo Emily . ¿Estás esperando a alguien?
Sorry, can I bother you for a sec? My name's Emily. Are you waiting for someone?
Hola, Emily , mucho gusto, soy Mariana. No, mis amigas ya se fueron.
Hi, Emily, nice to meet you, I'm Mariana. No, my friends already left.
¿Te puedo invitar algo de tomar? Si prefieres que no, no pasa nada.
Can I buy you a drink? If you'd rather not, that's totally fine.
Ay, qué amable. Me encantaría, pero voy a manejar de regreso y ya me tomé una cerveza.
Aw, that's sweet. I'd love to, but I'm driving home and I already had a beer.
Claro, te entiendo perfecto. ¿Y si mejor te invito algo sin alcohol?
Of course, I totally get it. How about I get you something non-alcoholic instead?
Lesson Vocabulary & Phrases
Perdón
pehr-DON
Sorry
¿Te molesto tantito?
teh moh-LEHS-toh tahn-TEE-toh
Can I bother you for a sec?
💬 tantito is a Mexican way of saying "a little bit", built on tanto plus the shrinking ending -ito. It softens any request: ¿me esperas tantito? "can you wait a sec?"
See breakdown →Perdón, ¿te molesto tantito?
pehr-DON teh moh-LEHS-toh tahn-TEE-toh
Sorry, can I bother you for a sec?
🇲🇽 Opening with perdón and asking if you're bothering them gives the other person an easy way to say no. That lands as respectful rather than pushy when approaching a stranger at a bar.
See breakdown →¿Estás esperando a alguien?
ehs-TAHS es-peh-RAHN-doh ah ahl-GYEHN
Are you waiting for someone?
💬 When the thing you're waiting for is a person, Spanish puts a before them: esperando a alguien, but esperando el camión "waiting for the bus".
See breakdown →Mis amigas ya se fueron.
mees ah-MEE-gahs yah seh FWEH-rohn
My friends already left.
💬 irse with se means "to leave, go away", not just "to go": se fueron "they left". Compare fueron al bar "they went to the bar".
See breakdown →No, mis amigas ya se fueron.
noh mees ah-MEE-gahs yah seh FWEH-rohn
No, my friends already left.
Algo de tomar
AHL-goh deh toh-mahr
Something to drink
💬 In Mexico, tomar is the everyday verb for drinking, especially alcohol. algo de tomar is the standard way to offer a drink, and algo de comer means "something to eat".
See breakdown →¿Te puedo invitar algo de tomar?
teh PWEH-doh een-bee-TAR AHL-goh deh toh-mahr
Can I buy you something to drink?
💬 invitar here means "to treat" or "to pay for", not just "to invite". Te invito on its own signals that you're paying.
See breakdown →Si prefieres que no
see preh-FYEH-rehs keh noh
If you'd rather not
💬 que no stands in for a whole "no" idea after verbs of wanting or thinking. The same move works with yes: creo que sí "I think so" and creo que no "I don't think so".
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