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Key Phrases

今度お茶しませんか?

kondo o cha shi mase n ka

Would you get tea with me sometime?

〜はどうですか?

wa dou desu ka

How about ~?

楽しみにしています。

tanoshimi ni shi te i masu

I'm looking forward to it.

Skills You'll Learn

Using casual expressions to invite someone out

カジュアルに誘う表現を使う

kajuaru ni sasou hyougen o tsukau

Proposing and confirming dates, times, and places

日時や場所を提案し確認する

nichiji ya basho o teian shi kakunin suru

Learning expressions to confirm and close a plan

約束を確認して締めくくる表現を学ぶ

yakusoku o kakunin shi te shimekukuru hyougen o manabu

Lesson Roleplay

Imagine you've met someone you like in Japan. You want to ask them out for tea and set a day, time, and place to meet.

あの、すみません。少しいいですか?

ano sumi mase n sukoshi ii desu ka

Um, excuse me. Do you have a moment?

はい、なんですか?

hai nan desu ka

Yes, what is it?

よかったら、今度お茶しませんか?

yokatsu tara kondo o cha shi mase n ka

If you'd like, would you get tea with me sometime?

えっ、いいですよ。いつですか?

etsu ii desu yo itsu desu ka

Oh! Sure. When?

土曜日はどうですか?

doyoubi wa dou desu ka

How about Saturday?

Lesson Vocabulary & Phrases

🙏

すみません

sumi mase n

Excuse me

💬 In casual speech すみません often softens to (sumimasen) with the (u) nearly silent, and you'll also hear すいません (suimasen).

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⏳❓

少しいいですか?

sukoshi ii desu ka

Do you have a moment?

🇯🇵 This is the standard polite way to stop a stranger on the street. Using です form keeps it non-threatening, which matters when approaching someone you don't know.

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✅❓

はい、なんですか?

hai nan desu ka

Yes, what is it?

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🤔👍

よかったら

yokatsu tara

If you'd like

🇯🇵 Opening an invitation with this softens it and gives the other person an easy way to say no. That cushion matters a lot when asking someone out in Japan.

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🍵🤝❓

今度お茶しませんか?

kondo o cha shi mase n ka

Would you get tea with me sometime?

💬 Asking with a negative, 〜しませんか, makes it a soft invitation rather than a direct question. Swap the activity: 今度ご飯しませんか "want to get a meal sometime?"

🇯🇵 お茶する (ocha suru) "to go for tea" is the classic low-pressure first-date invite in Japan. It means coffee or a café visit, and asking for tea rather than dinner makes it easy to say yes to.

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😊👍

えっ、いいですよ。

etsu ii desu yo

Oh, sure.

💬 The small っ in えっ cuts the sound off sharply, like a little gasp of surprise. よ at the end adds a friendly, reassuring tone to the yes.

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⏰❓

いつですか?

itsu desu ka

When?

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🎉

土曜日

doyoubi

Saturday

💬 All the weekdays end in 曜日 (yōbi), so you only need to learn the first part: 日曜日 (nichiyōbi) "Sunday", 金曜日 (kin'yōbi) "Friday".

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❓🤷

どうですか?

dou desu ka

How about it?

💬 Put a noun with は in front to suggest something: コーヒーはどうですか? "How about coffee?"

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