
Asking cute stranger out to a date: Agreeing on a day, time and place
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Key Phrases
今度お茶しませんか?
kondo o cha shi mase n ka
Would you get tea with me sometime?
〜はどうですか?
wa dou desu ka
How about ~?
楽しみにしています。
tanoshimi ni shi te i masu
I'm looking forward to it.
Skills You'll Learn
Using casual expressions to invite someone out
カジュアルに誘う表現を使う
kajuaru ni sasou hyougen o tsukau
Proposing and confirming dates, times, and places
日時や場所を提案し確認する
nichiji ya basho o teian shi kakunin suru
Learning expressions to confirm and close a plan
約束を確認して締めくくる表現を学ぶ
yakusoku o kakunin shi te shimekukuru hyougen o manabu
Lesson Roleplay
Imagine you've met someone you like in Japan. You want to ask them out for tea and set a day, time, and place to meet.
あの、すみません。少しいいですか?
ano sumi mase n sukoshi ii desu ka
Um, excuse me. Do you have a moment?
はい、なんですか?
hai nan desu ka
Yes, what is it?
よかったら、今度お茶しませんか?
yokatsu tara kondo o cha shi mase n ka
If you'd like, would you get tea with me sometime?
えっ、いいですよ。いつですか?
etsu ii desu yo itsu desu ka
Oh! Sure. When?
土曜日はどうですか?
doyoubi wa dou desu ka
How about Saturday?
Lesson Vocabulary & Phrases
すみません
sumi mase n
Excuse me
💬 In casual speech すみません often softens to (sumimasen) with the (u) nearly silent, and you'll also hear すいません (suimasen).
See breakdown →少しいいですか?
sukoshi ii desu ka
Do you have a moment?
🇯🇵 This is the standard polite way to stop a stranger on the street. Using です form keeps it non-threatening, which matters when approaching someone you don't know.
See breakdown →はい、なんですか?
hai nan desu ka
Yes, what is it?
よかったら
yokatsu tara
If you'd like
🇯🇵 Opening an invitation with this softens it and gives the other person an easy way to say no. That cushion matters a lot when asking someone out in Japan.
See breakdown →今度お茶しませんか?
kondo o cha shi mase n ka
Would you get tea with me sometime?
💬 Asking with a negative, 〜しませんか, makes it a soft invitation rather than a direct question. Swap the activity: 今度ご飯しませんか "want to get a meal sometime?"
🇯🇵 お茶する (ocha suru) "to go for tea" is the classic low-pressure first-date invite in Japan. It means coffee or a café visit, and asking for tea rather than dinner makes it easy to say yes to.
See breakdown →えっ、いいですよ。
etsu ii desu yo
Oh, sure.
💬 The small っ in えっ cuts the sound off sharply, like a little gasp of surprise. よ at the end adds a friendly, reassuring tone to the yes.
See breakdown →いつですか?
itsu desu ka
When?
土曜日
doyoubi
Saturday
💬 All the weekdays end in 曜日 (yōbi), so you only need to learn the first part: 日曜日 (nichiyōbi) "Sunday", 金曜日 (kin'yōbi) "Friday".
See breakdown →どうですか?
dou desu ka
How about it?
💬 Put a noun with は in front to suggest something: コーヒーはどうですか? "How about coffee?"
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