
Asking cute stranger out to a date: Suggesting coffee or a drink together
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Key Phrases
すみません、ちょっといいですか。
sumi mase n chotto ii desu ka
Excuse me, do you have a moment?
コーヒーでもどうですか。
koohii de mo dou desu ka
How about coffee or something?
土曜日の午後なら、大丈夫です。
doyoubi no gogo nara daijoubu desu
Saturday afternoon works for me.
Skills You'll Learn
Learning how to politely ask about someone's availability
丁寧に相手の都合を尋ねる表現を学ぶ
teinei ni aite no tsugou o tazuneru hyougen o manabu
Learning how to make suggestions and express preferences through comparison
誘いを提案し、比較して好みを伝える表現を学ぶ
sasoi o teian shi hikaku shi te konomi o tsutaeru hyougen o manabu
Learning how to arrange a specific time and place for an appointment
日時や場所を決めて約束をする表現を学ぶ
nichiji ya basho o kime te yakusoku o suru hyougen o manabu
Lesson Roleplay
Imagine you're out in a town in Japan and see someone you'd like to get to know. You want to ask them out for coffee this weekend.
すみません、ちょっといいですか。
sumi mase n chotto ii desu ka
Excuse me, do you have a moment?
はい、何ですか。
hai nan desu ka
Yes, what is it?
急にすみません。よかったら、コーヒーでもどうですか。
kyuu ni sumi mase n yokatsu tara koohii de mo dou desu ka
Sorry, this is sudden. Would you like to get coffee or something?
えっ、コーヒーですか。
etsu koohii desu ka
Oh, coffee?
はい。それか、お酒でも。
hai sore ka o sake de mo
Yes. Or maybe a drink.
Lesson Vocabulary & Phrases
すみません
sumi mase n
Excuse me
💬 In casual speech すみません often softens to (sumimasen) with the (u) nearly silent, and you'll also hear すいません (suimasen).
See breakdown →ちょっといいですか。
chotto ii desu ka
Do you have a moment?
💬 ちょっと literally means "a little", so this is really "Is a little okay?", meaning a little of your time. The same softener works elsewhere: ちょっと待ってください "please wait a moment".
See breakdown →すみません、ちょっといいですか。
sumi mase n chotto ii desu ka
Excuse me, do you have a moment?
🇯🇵 This is the standard polite opener for stopping a stranger, the same one you'd use to ask directions. Using it before asking someone out keeps things low-pressure and respectful.
See breakdown →はい、何ですか。
hai nan desu ka
Yes, what is it?
急にすみません。
kyuu ni sumi mase n
Sorry, this is sudden.
💬 急に means "suddenly". Japanese often apologizes with すみません where English would just say "I know this is out of nowhere".
🇯🇵 Approaching strangers romantically is less common in Japan than in some countries, so acknowledging the awkwardness up front makes you seem considerate rather than pushy.
See breakdown →よかったら
yokatsu tara
If you'd like
🇯🇵 Opening an invitation with this softens it and gives the other person an easy way to say no. That cushion matters a lot when asking someone out in Japan.
See breakdown →どうですか?
dou desu ka
How about it?
💬 Put a noun with は in front to suggest something: コーヒーはどうですか? "How about coffee?"
See breakdown →コーヒーでもどうですか。
koohii de mo dou desu ka
How about coffee or something?
💬 Adding でも after a noun makes it "X or something" and keeps the suggestion loose. You can swap the noun freely: ランチでもどうですか "how about lunch or something?"
🇯🇵 Coffee is the classic low-stakes first invitation. It's short, daytime, and easy for the other person to accept or politely decline.
See breakdown →えっ、コーヒーですか。
etsu koohii desu ka
Oh, coffee?
💬 The small っ in えっ is a sharp cut-off, like a little gasp of surprise, not a held sound before another consonant.
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