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Scene illustrating a Japanese-language asking cute stranger out to a date conversation

Key Phrases

すみません、ちょっといいですか。

sumi mase n chotto ii desu ka

Excuse me, do you have a moment?

コーヒーでもどうですか。

koohii de mo dou desu ka

How about coffee or something?

土曜日の午後なら、大丈夫です。

doyoubi no gogo nara daijoubu desu

Saturday afternoon works for me.

Skills You'll Learn

Learning how to politely ask about someone's availability

丁寧に相手の都合を尋ねる表現を学ぶ

teinei ni aite no tsugou o tazuneru hyougen o manabu

Learning how to make suggestions and express preferences through comparison

誘いを提案し、比較して好みを伝える表現を学ぶ

sasoi o teian shi hikaku shi te konomi o tsutaeru hyougen o manabu

Learning how to arrange a specific time and place for an appointment

日時や場所を決めて約束をする表現を学ぶ

nichiji ya basho o kime te yakusoku o suru hyougen o manabu

Lesson Roleplay

Imagine you're out in a town in Japan and see someone you'd like to get to know. You want to ask them out for coffee this weekend.

すみません、ちょっといいですか。

sumi mase n chotto ii desu ka

Excuse me, do you have a moment?

はい、何ですか。

hai nan desu ka

Yes, what is it?

急にすみません。よかったら、コーヒーでもどうですか。

kyuu ni sumi mase n yokatsu tara koohii de mo dou desu ka

Sorry, this is sudden. Would you like to get coffee or something?

えっ、コーヒーですか。

etsu koohii desu ka

Oh, coffee?

はい。それか、お酒でも。

hai sore ka o sake de mo

Yes. Or maybe a drink.

Lesson Vocabulary & Phrases

🙏

すみません

sumi mase n

Excuse me

💬 In casual speech すみません often softens to (sumimasen) with the (u) nearly silent, and you'll also hear すいません (suimasen).

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❓⏰

ちょっといいですか。

chotto ii desu ka

Do you have a moment?

💬 ちょっと literally means "a little", so this is really "Is a little okay?", meaning a little of your time. The same softener works elsewhere: ちょっと待ってください "please wait a moment".

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🙏❓⏰

すみません、ちょっといいですか。

sumi mase n chotto ii desu ka

Excuse me, do you have a moment?

🇯🇵 This is the standard polite opener for stopping a stranger, the same one you'd use to ask directions. Using it before asking someone out keeps things low-pressure and respectful.

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✅❓

はい、何ですか。

hai nan desu ka

Yes, what is it?

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😅⚡

急にすみません。

kyuu ni sumi mase n

Sorry, this is sudden.

💬 急に means "suddenly". Japanese often apologizes with すみません where English would just say "I know this is out of nowhere".

🇯🇵 Approaching strangers romantically is less common in Japan than in some countries, so acknowledging the awkwardness up front makes you seem considerate rather than pushy.

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🤔👍

よかったら

yokatsu tara

If you'd like

🇯🇵 Opening an invitation with this softens it and gives the other person an easy way to say no. That cushion matters a lot when asking someone out in Japan.

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❓🤷

どうですか?

dou desu ka

How about it?

💬 Put a noun with は in front to suggest something: コーヒーはどうですか? "How about coffee?"

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❓☕🤷

コーヒーでもどうですか。

koohii de mo dou desu ka

How about coffee or something?

💬 Adding でも after a noun makes it "X or something" and keeps the suggestion loose. You can swap the noun freely: ランチでもどうですか "how about lunch or something?"

🇯🇵 Coffee is the classic low-stakes first invitation. It's short, daytime, and easy for the other person to accept or politely decline.

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😮☕❓

えっ、コーヒーですか。

etsu koohii desu ka

Oh, coffee?

💬 The small っ in えっ is a sharp cut-off, like a little gasp of surprise, not a held sound before another consonant.

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