
Flirting at the bar: Use light teasing or playful jokes to build chemistry.
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Key Phrases
ここ、隣いいですか。
koko tonari ii desu ka
Is this seat next to you free?
そういうことをさらっと言うんですね。
sou iu koto o saratsu to yuu n desu ne
You say things like that so casually.
まずは乾杯しましょう。
mazu wa kanpai shi mashou
First, let's make a toast.
Skills You'll Learn
How to politely ask to sit next to someone
丁寧に隣の席が空いているか聞く言い方
teinei ni tonari no seki ga ai te iru ka kiku ii kata
How to flirt casually and respond playfully
軽く褒めたり、冗談っぽく返したりする言い方
karuku home tari joudan ppoku kaeshi tari suru ii kata
How to suggest a drink and start a conversation naturally
飲み物を提案して自然に会話を始める言い方
nomimono o teian shi te shizen ni kaiwa o hajimeru ii kata
Lesson Roleplay
Imagine you're at a cozy bar in Japan, taking the seat next to someone charming and starting a playful, flirty conversation over drinks.
ここ、隣いいですか。
koko tonari ii desu ka
Is this seat taken?
どうぞ。でも、少し緊張してますね。
douzo de mo sukoshi kinchou shi te masu ne
Go ahead. But you seem a little nervous.
ばれましたか。君がいるからかな。
bare mashi ta ka kimi ga iru kara ka na
Did you find out? Maybe because you're here.
え、そういうことをさらっと言うんですね。ずるいです。
e sou iu koto o saratsu to yuu n desu ne zurui desu
Oh, so you just casually say things like that? That's so unfair.
ずるいですか。じゃあ、一杯おごって許してもらおうかな。
zurui desu ka jaa ichi pai ogotsu te yurushi te moraou ka na
Is that unfair? Well then, maybe I’ll buy you a drink and ask you to forgive me.
Lesson Vocabulary & Phrases
ここ
koko
Here
隣
tonari
Next to; beside
いいですか
ii desu ka
Is it okay?
💬 [いいですか] is a very common way to ask permission or check if something is okay: [座ってもいいですか] for "Can I sit?" or [今いいですか] for "Is now a good time?".
See breakdown →ここ、隣いいですか。
koko tonari ii desu ka
Is this seat next to you free?
💬 In [ここ、隣いいですか。], the seat is left unsaid; Japanese often drops obvious words from the situation. You can reuse this with place words like [そこ、いいですか。] when the context makes the meaning clear.
🇯🇵 This is a natural, light way to ask to sit near someone at a bar, but it works best when there's an actual open seat and the vibe is relaxed. With strangers, a soft tone matters a lot more than the exact wording.
See breakdown →どうぞ。
douzo
Go ahead.
🇯🇵 [どうぞ。] is the standard polite reply when you're letting someone sit, pass, or go ahead. In this setting it sounds friendly and normal, not stiff.
See breakdown →少し
sukoshi
A little
緊張してます
kinchou shi te masu
Am nervous
少し緊張してますね。
sukoshi kinchou shi te masu ne
You seem a little nervous.
💬 [ね] at the end softens the line and invites agreement, so [少し緊張してますね。] feels more like "You seem a little nervous, huh." than a blunt statement.
🇯🇵 This is teasing, so delivery matters: said with a smile, it can feel playful; said too directly, it can sound like you're calling someone out. In Japan, light teasing usually works better after a bit of rapport.
See breakdown →ばれましたか。
bare mashi ta ka
Did you notice?
💬 [ばれましたか] comes from [ばれる], "to be found out" or "to give oneself away," so it's more like "Did it show?" than simply "Did you notice?" You can use it playfully after a feeling becomes obvious, like [緊張してるの、ばれましたか。].
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